Should I Stay or Should I Go?
A real-world perspective when your heart feels torn
If you're asking this question, let me say a few things right away.
You’re probably overwhelmed.
Confused. Tired of the back and forth.
And deep down, you’re craving peace—some kind of answer that will quiet the noise.
Here’s what I want you to know:
There is a whole lot of grey area between staying and going. And it’s in that grey space where the real work happens.
I’ve been in this business a long time. One occupational hazard is that I see both the small, quiet details and the big picture of how these things play out. So if you’re here wondering, “Should I stay or should I go?”—let me give you a little perspective (and a little hope).
Here’s what I’ve seen:
Many people choose to stay—and eventually find peace, clarity, and even connection again.
Many others stay—and resentment slowly hardens in them.
Some leave—and discover deep joy in the love they find with others, or within themselves.
And some leave—and carry the same bitterness with them into the next chapter.
So what makes the difference?
Three things.
1. Accountability.
Those who found peace—regardless of whether they stayed or left—took full responsibility for their own behavior, before and after the decision. No blaming. No finger-pointing. Just honest self-reflection.
2. Boundaries.
The people who truly moved forward learned to stop wasting energy on what they couldn’t control. They got clear about what was in their hands—and they built a new kind of strength from there.
3. Willingness to adapt.
They were willing to think differently. Try new things. Let go of old patterns. They did the work of becoming someone they respected, regardless of their relationship status.
This is the hard truth:
You cannot fix a problem you pretend doesn’t exist.
And you cannot find answers if you’re not asking the right questions.
So if you’re stuck in that “stay or go” loop, let me offer you something solid:
👉 This is figure-out-able.
No matter how chaotic it feels right now, there is a path through it. Somewhere in all this confusion are the right questions—and the honest answers that will help you move forward.
You might not see them yet. That’s okay. That’s why I’m here.
I've seen the outcomes. I’ve helped hundreds of people through this exact moment. I’ve seen peace after chaos, strength after fear, and clarity after confusion. And I believe in your ability to get there.
But it starts with getting honest.
Not with your partner. With yourself.
💬 Ready to find some peace in the chaos?
I offer 1:1 coaching sessions for women who feel stuck in their relationship and don’t know what to do next. I won’t tell you to stay or go. I’ll help you slow down, ask the right questions, and start uncovering your answers.
👉 Click here to book a session. Let's help you stop spinning—and start figuring this out.
